Having a frequent, embarrassing blushing problem is no fun. In this blog we’ll look at some things you can try in order to stop blushing, but first we need to understand what blushing is and what causes it.
Blushing is a physiological response that is characterized by a redness in the cheeks, face, and neck that usually occurs when people are embarrassed or uncomfortable.
Normally, blushing is infrequent and the redness doesn’t last long. However, some people suffer from a blushing problem that causes them to blush frequently, for no apparent reason. Their blushing problem may become so severe that they actually develop a fear of blushing called Erythrophobia.
Research has shown that blushing problems are linked to anxiety issues induced by social situations. So, the question is: Does anxiety cause the blushing, or does a blushing problem cause anxiety?
The answer is: Both – You may feel anxious because of uncontrollable blushing, which causes more blushing, which in turn causes more anxiety, and so on in a vicious cycle that keeps compounding the blushing problem. So with the link between blushing and anxiety in mind, here are some tips on how to stop blushing:
1. Understand that you are not alone. Blushing problems are more common than you think. Plenty of people have, or have overcome, the same problem – so there is hope. See if you can locate someone else suffering from blushing problems that you can share experiences with. Sometimes it helps just being able to talk about it.
2. Watch what you eat. Pay attention to your eating habits, and take notice if you seem to have a blushing problem after eating certain types of food. Foods that can cause blushing include: spicy foods, coffee or caffeinated beverages, alcohol, and additives such as MSG.
3. Don’t try to fight it. Psychology has shown the more you try to fight something, the worse it may get. This is because you become even more focused on it, when it should be the opposite. This sounds simple, but can be powerful. You’ve probably noticed that you stop blushing when you aren’t worried, or thinking, about it. Work on trying to divert your attention away from thinking about blushing.
4. Think of something else. When you feel like a blushing episode is about to hit, try to focus on anything other than blushing. This isn’t easy to do, but is worth trying. It might help to wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it when you feel a blushing episode coming on. This will temporarily switch your focus away from blushing and allow you to concentrate on something else.
Those are just a few ways to help stop a blushing problem, however you might want to consider whether your blushing is just a symptom of a larger anxiety or social phobia issue. If that’s the case, working on the underlying problem may stop your blushing problem too.
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June 11th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
heyy.ive had this blushing problem for guite a while for like no apperante reason.reading this made me feel so much better.it made me feel like im not alone
i just wanna say thanks soo much:)
i’ll deffinatly try the tips you gave here
January 18th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
i have this problem and its gets me so frustrated, theres so many things i wanna do n say but i just no il go red, shake and make a fool out of myself, its such a stupid thing, but causes so many problems. im in uni and i skip lessons when we have 2 present work as i cannot stand in front of people and talk outloud, sometimes someone will just say hiya and il get a rush of read and rash on my body, i have 2 lie to people when they notice and say ive had an reaction 2 purfume or summit, but theres only so many times i can use that excuse. it stresses me out when i have to meet people im not confortable with and i wear alot of makeup and a scalf to hide it however this redness shows through, these tips havent helped im gutted.
February 19th, 2010 at 10:22 am
Hi Lisa i completely do understand you because i have the same problem and i just dont know what to do with that!!! is just so emmbarising maybe you could text me and we can talk about it.
February 23rd, 2010 at 1:28 pm
i have the same problem. every time in class, anyone says my name or anyone tries talking to me, i can feel my face burn and my heart race and then i get even more embarrassed because i know i look stupid going red just because someone spoke to me. and other times i just go red for no apparent reason. i appreciate that i can’t just get rid of it and other people suffer from it too but i hate it so much and i just want some sort of technique that can maybe calm me down quicker and so my face doesn’t stay so red. anything! i hide away and avoid certain situations because i don’t want it to happen and i even go red thinking about going red if something happened etc. it really gets in the way of things and i just want some form of help. i also suffer from social phobia, i’ve gotten worse over time rather than gradually overcome it. i never used to be this bad. this article didn’t really help me, just made me realize what it really is. anyone, help, please?
March 9th, 2010 at 9:18 pm
Like all of you i had this problem. I wouldnt do school speeched and failed all my oral presentaions, I suffer anxiety and social phobias. I actually went to see a councellor who wprked with me doing conginitve behaviour thinking or CBT. THis worked and i havent had a probelm since. I even did some modelling on a bar infront of many people. The therapy just taught me to re wire my brain and the way it thinhks about certain situations. IT was like being hypontised. You need a few sessions but
Give it a try
Amanda
March 11th, 2010 at 11:42 pm
I don’t know if anyone can help me out with this. I have a horrible blushing problem. I can go beet red in 1 second. It is so humilating. It started at age 13. I’m now 26. I’ve been in the process of trying to get on a medication for social anxiety. Here is the thing, this usually only happens in front of certain people. I’m not afraid of people that I don’t know. I have a fear of male managers at work. I always go bright red in front of them. I hate it. They probably think I like them or something. I don’t know why I have this problem. I’m an attractive young woman. This problem really takes over my life. Does anyone else only blush in front of certain people?
March 16th, 2010 at 10:56 pm
i have the same problem and sometimes it feels like its spiraling out of control but i always try to convince myself that even when i do blush it doesnt matter what people say about me its hard to try to convince yourself but its better to face your fear so when ever ii present i just go up and even if i blushed i force myself to try and forget about it. my blushing phobia has gotten alot better since but i still have it im just tired of being so alone and not having anyone in my life that understands what im going through and its hard to talk about it to someone that doesnt know what we have to go through
March 18th, 2010 at 10:36 am
I have suffered with blushing for as long as I can remember. I’m at uni now and I find that if I meet new people, especially men, I just go bright red for no reason. People always comment which makes it so much worse, i’m really fair skinned as well so it’s really noticeable. One thing which does help slightly, is if you have to do a presentation and you know you will be anxious, wear green coloured foundation under your make-up. It sounds craxy but it ‘cuts’ the red tones in your skin, and blushing isn’t as noticeable. I also wear yellow loose powder for the same reason. However, it does wear off after a while so it doesn’t work all day long. I know how you all feel
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March 18th, 2010 at 3:06 pm
Hey
I blush all the time, and its soooo annoying. Its really strange because in some lessons i can go to the front and talk to the class no problem, i took drama as a GCSE and i’m fine in that, and i’m always speaking out in my spanish lessons, and i have no problem. But when it comes to other lessons im so quiet, and if the teacher picks on me to read my work my face goes up in flames! Im dreading having to go to the college i want to go to because of this, its even making me want to stay on at 6th form at my current school, even though its not as good as the college i want to go to. i hate this problem and i feel its holding me back a lot!my mum and sister had this promlem but they eventually grew out of it, so maybe there is hope for us all. glad to see that im not the only one x
March 20th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
God I empathise with all the comments up here. @Lisa and @Ellie I used to miss language classes at uni coz we were all in a small room and I felt the attention on me was always too much – and now at work I spend so much time trying to come up with ways to miss meetings coz I know that if anyone says anything to me or even mentions my name I’ll be so red I’m dripping with sweat. Even not in meetings, just in the corridor or at the canteen I dread seeing people I know – even in the supermarket. Help!!
March 30th, 2010 at 3:26 pm
Wow, I am so relieved to hear I’m not the only one. In the past year or so I’ve noticed my face goes red a lot. At first it was just around people at work or school. Now it’s gotten so bad that i even turn red with my family and my boyfriend. I miss school on the days we have presentations, I avoid people at work so that I won’t have to go through the embarrassment of turning red for no reason, I even have to cover my face around my family and friends because I know my face is about to turn bright red. I turn red just from thinking about turning red. People have noticed and they even make fun of me for it now, which makes it so much worse. The comments above basically say it all for me. I have the same problems and i just wish I could overcome it and get back to my life.
April 11th, 2010 at 3:27 pm
Hi everyone! Thanks a lot for sharing about what you’re going through; it’s been so helpful and cheering for me to read all your comments and see that I’m not the only one. I remember I used to blush during adolescence, especially when talking with certain people. Then, I almost forgot about it, but, to my surprise, it started again, about one year ago and it’s really annoying. I noticed it’s worse when I’m thinking about it and, trying to divert my attention to something else works well, when I have the time and strength to do it before blushing. The strange thing is that, like some of you, I started blushing even in places and with people whom I know well and with whom I should feel confident. I don’t usually blush with new people, or in difficult situations. The strange thing is that I blush exactly when I should be the most confident and relaxed… I’ll try some of the tips here and I’m praying we all get rid of this soon.
April 11th, 2010 at 4:00 pm
Hi again! After writing to you, here, I kept reading about blushing on the internet. I had heard that magnesium is good for reducing blood pressure and anxiety and I was going to try taking some magnesium supplements. So, a few minutes ago, I also typed into my search engine ‘blushing and magnesium’ and I found this website, where my idea was confirmed. Now I’m more confident and tomorrow I’m gonna buy magnesium and give it a try. Read the article here: http://www.facialblush.com/stop_facial_blushing_magnesium.html
Maybe it’ll be helpful. All the best to all of you!
April 12th, 2010 at 7:00 pm
I really can’t express how happy I am to have found this website. As much as I wish you all didn’t have this problem I’m so glad I’ve found people who really, truly understand how it feels.
When I go bright red I feel totally out of control and I hate it. I feel like I can’t have any emotions in public-even good ones like happiness or being excited-because I’ll blush, someone will comment on it and then I’ll blush even harder.
Now that I realize it’s a recognized, widespread problem I’m going to my doctor and I’m doing something about it.
April 20th, 2010 at 5:09 am
I was surprised at how common this is! My face has an annoying habit to go tomato red whenever anyone starts a conversation with me. As much as I want to stop it, it never goes away. Although I’ve found a few things that help: Relax! as hard as it is, try, try, try. The best thing that works for me is keeping cool, literally. I wear a layer or two less to keep myself, especially my face from over-heating. It’s a little thing I live by when I have to present in front of people in my uni classes.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one going through this! There are great comments here that are sympathetic and kind.
April 22nd, 2010 at 5:08 am
I am a sixty-five-year-old male. I have had this problem throughout my life, to one degree or other. It was worst for some time in college. Thereafter it improved, and in some years occasions of it were negligible, though it was always hovering in the background somewhere. For the last few years it has increasingly been coming back. But just recently, with the help of meditation, I have learned something that I think may finally set me free.
A number of the posts on this page talk about blushing “for no reason” or “no apparent reason.” But try to look more closely. In my case, I’m sure there’s always a reason. When blushing happens, the mind can race with so many thoughts (“How can I stop this,” “How can I escape,” “What a disaster”) that later you may not be able to remember what you were thinking when it started. But try to see what is going on at that moment, or remember what was going on.
What went on in my mind on any occasion may not seem to adequately explain the disastrous blushing that followed, but something did always go on in my mind. Perhaps I start to tell a funny story. From my expression, etc., as I start, everyone around is expecting a funny story. But then once I’ve started, I realize that it’s not going to be that funny, or that I’ve forgotten part of it, or that I haven’t organized it in my mind. So then the prospect hits me that people are going to form a negative image of me. Maybe only a very mildly negative image, but somehow that causes me an intense emotional pain inside.
But I may not be conscious of that pain as such. Two things can happen: One, I may be conscious of the pain and accept it (and perhaps the pain will show on my face, but not blushing). Or two, once I feel the threat of pain, I unconsciously react out of fear and fend it off (by keeping it from consciousness and not accepting it, not feeling it). But in the process of fending off the threat, I start to blush. I don’t know why blushing should be a side effect of denying/repressing pain, but in my case, I think it is. Either I’m conscious of the pain and accept it and don’t blush, or I remain unconscious of it and blush.
It’s better to be conscious of the pain, because anyway it’s there.
Some people have said that fear of blushing causes them to blush. I think fear of some kind is always the cause of blushing. But the first time that anyone blushed, they did not do it out of fear of blushing; it was due to fear of something else — I think fear of emotional pain related to other people’s image of them. If they had not unconsciously feared the pain, if they had allowed themselves to experience the pain, they might have cried and expressed pain, but they wouldn’t have blushed.
Someone once wrote, “But if it is humiliation that we are concerned about, why do we blush when we’re praised?” I think that in that case also there is pain, and it is related to the following thought: “I can’t live up to the expectations of this person who is praising me. At any moment I’ll be exposed and the person will be disillusioned and feel I’ve let him down.”
I think everyone is in the process of getting free of this thing. It may take a long time, but may not. I think our true nature is freedom.
May 4th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
i am so relieved to see that im not the only one suffering from these blushing attacks. i really feel like if it didnt keep happening i would have so much more confidence, it makes me feel so paranoid i cant even be myself around my best friends anymore because im so scared im going to go red 4 no reason. i dread going into my job because it happens at least 10 times a day. i could just be talking to sumone and my face arms chest and neck go beetroot. i really wish i could get on with my life without this problem as it is really holding me back it is making me really socially akward
May 5th, 2010 at 7:00 am
wow! I love ready all your comments, helps me alot. Some many of us but yet we all have similiar personalitys. Forced into a lifestyle we dont want. Even though we know each other its like we do :/
May 5th, 2010 at 9:14 am
* so many of us and we dont know each other. God so many mistakes on my last comment.
May 20th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Wow.. after reading everyone’s comments, I no longer feel so alone. I really thought it was just me that had it this bad but, it’s obviously not. Blushing gets in the way of everything in my life and it’s so irritating. I also shake and people can really notice it. I don’t know what to do.
But really, why do we all care so much? Why does it have to matter what people think of us? It’s really not fair.
May 25th, 2010 at 7:54 am
i never knew that blushing effected so many people, i can relate to it all, im 27 i have a young boy of 9 and all i want is to make him happy, i cant go to his sports days teachers meetings, plays or anything because im so scared of blushing, its making my life hell, i cant meet new people, go out and eat, i even struggle to cross the main road outside my house because i feel im going to blush so i do, its crazy, and all i wish for like u all is not to blush again… i feel so stupid for blushing, i feel no one would understand…..
May 26th, 2010 at 3:27 am
Dear readers,
I am now 25 years old and from reading all these comments, I also just realised that this is really happening to many people.
So we all do not feel alone anymore.
Maybe I can shine a little light on something…
As I was at work today, very stress y thinking about not going red and Im sometimes wondering how red am I?
I think it all started when I was in high school, I clearly remember, it was one of my friends birthday parties, which she specifically said was on Sunday. I rocked up at her house on Sunday, to my surprise she was in her pj’s because her party was yesterday I have missed it. I was so angry at that time and noticed something different in the way I acted out “red faced”. I think that from that moment on, i noticed being under pressure at school, and yes speaking in front of the whole class made me get that feeling again and then I was not able to shake it, well not for too long anyway.
For 6months or a year not quite sure I seemed to shake it but I realised as my life kept getting complicated eg: work, stress, family stress it came back.
I was actually going to look into medication today because I just had enough it is greatly affecting my life. But magnesium I am definitely going to try. It is really not nice of people commenting, but the comments that i get are: that people talk about themselves, oh I don’t know but I feel like my face is hot, or Is my face red? or It’s very hot in here, are u hot?
Im not doing it on purpose and Im sure that we are all not joining forces to hurt people, we simply just go red, not because we want to, it’s because we don not. Maybe a little reverse psychology would work, let us want to go red, sometimes works for me. Im not sure about all of you, but I did notice that I couldn’t see myself red, I kept looking in the mirror after I saw other people blushing, but i never caught myself, until recently. I do feel sorry for the people, but If I could stop it I would have.
Kindest Regards to all of you…
Becky.
May 27th, 2010 at 1:18 pm
The reverse psychology theory sounds like a decent idea. But I’m not sure how to ‘want’ to go red, because well, I never want to do that. The fact that some of you have had this problem for so long worries me. There’s got to be something that we can do, in order for it to stop bothering us. I know that, once people are aware of my problem, once I’ve told them that I blush randomly and stuff, then it’s not as bad, because they know it’s so happen, and they know that I know it’s to happen- if that makes sense. I know that sounds pretty dumb and confusing, but it makes me feel better when people know what’s to come, when I’m about to talk to the class or whatever.
I hate the fault of people thinking that I’m genuinely embarassed, because that makes me feel childish. However, once I blush, that’s what they automatically assume. That’s why I have to tell them beforehand, y’know? But I know that I won’t be able to do that in every single situation I face. I mean, if I keep telling people that, they’re probably gonna think I’m a bit strange!
So does anyone have any suggestions? To be honest, I think we’ve all put up with this for long enough. The majority of people that don’t suffer with this aren’t likely to understand why this bothers us so much. And well, I’d probably not understand either, if I wasn’t so used to it myself. Maybe we’re just.. caring too much. It’s a shame there isn’t more of us, because there’s hardly anyone I know that’s like me.
Sorry, I know that was a bit long…
But it feels alot better to let it out to people that genuinely know what I’m going through.
May 29th, 2010 at 7:31 am
i’m not sure about reverse psychology. Maybe just accepting that we do blush helps me alot. Also ginger tea helps and aspirin, although if you do get the aspirin get the coated ones because they are bad for your liver. I only use them on deprsate occasions. Finding this site has cheered me up alot.I’v got a few other things i do aswell but I’d really like to get to know some of you more, like said its not everyday we meet some1 with our condition
I’m sure in for a show tonight though. Going to a family bbq today, been dreading it all week and im a bit nervous today. Wish me luck,Here goes now…
May 29th, 2010 at 9:17 am
good luck aaron, hope all goes well for you
xxjuxx
May 30th, 2010 at 3:59 am
Thanx julianne. I managed to keep in-control last night, but left early before i could have a total meltdown lol
just frustrated as always i could not be myself around my family, shy’d away. I hope your coping ok??
May 31st, 2010 at 1:27 am
Hey guys! Wow i cant believe that its not just me!!! lol Its so silly hey! I go red just talking to my co-workers! I just dont get it! Why??? Its norm worse when its a cold day and the heater is on i just know im gonna go bright red as soon as someone talks to me! So what works for everyone else???
May 31st, 2010 at 1:31 am
I’ve had this problem too ever since i was a kid, but i didn’t think it was a big deal before. But ever since high school every time I blush I just think it’s so embarrassing and no one I know is like this. I feel so alone and have no one to talk to. And now I’m a uni student, I avoid classes that need presentation, I don’t get involved with school, I avoid meeting new people and now I’m afraid to get a job because all the possibilities that I might blush. It just makes me so mad, mad at myself. I don’t understand why I am like this.
May 31st, 2010 at 5:14 am
hey kacy, hey deb
its sucks dont it! A stupid condition that you cant understand unless you have it. Theres alot to learn about it, and its not ‘normal’ but atleast we found each other for support.
June 1st, 2010 at 9:20 am
hi aaron, glad the other night went ok ish for you,it really sucks when you know u cant see the rest of the night through,just think how much we all miss out on
….. i would love to meet some of you guys as like most of u i have never met anyone like myself, just feel like an outsider,wish there was more help and support out there…..
June 2nd, 2010 at 10:12 am
yeah i’m always thinking about what i’v missed out on. If you want to get in touch some way julianne im open to itit??
June 14th, 2010 at 2:00 am
Do you think it would seem silly to mention the problem to my GP Do you think he would understand and be able to help?
June 14th, 2010 at 6:57 am
i sort of tried that and he just sent me for some blood tests and nothing came of it. I think they can prescribe betablockers. Iv done my research and even top surgeons dont understand it fully.
June 16th, 2010 at 9:57 am
Hmmm. Well, that’s a shame
June 16th, 2010 at 2:22 pm
aaron. Hehe wrong boxes.
June 16th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
try again! Lol. Yeah like i tried to say i even thought about the est treatment, but its not a cure for blushing. I read about a guy who had the condition and it just made him worse! I feel like iv read everything and There are things out there that mixed with a good state of mind can help. But iv hit a brick wall and i wake up everyday lately hoping for a cure that might not come and thats a bad thing. Meeting ppl like you guys helps me the best
June 17th, 2010 at 10:59 am
Yeah, it’s nice to know that we’re not alone. Today was a bad day for me. I blushed quite a bit, and it makes me miserable to have to avoid certain situations that I know will trigger blushing. Like, for example, in school today, I got offered to show around little kids that’ll be joining my school next year, but I didn’t attend the meeting about it, because I have a strong feeling I’ll go red, and do something stupid, which’ll make me go red even more. And it sucks coz, I wouldn’t have minded doing it.
But… I think I’m going to have to do it anyway, as I’ve kinda been selected, in a way.. so, I dunno. I dunno what I should do. If they’ve organised it so that I am doing it, then I can hardly ask them to cut me out. And well, I’d just go red if I tried to talk to them anyway.
Haha, that was probably hard to follow. But meh. I’ve been in a pretty low mood about this throughout the day. I used to try and tell people about it as it usually makes me feel better to talk things out. But now it just seems kinda pointless. Argh, this stupid thing is really holding me back- holding us ALL back. There really has to be something that can help us
June 17th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
if you survive a social situation and you feel like you did not blush, or no one mentioned anything, you feel on top of the world. But if you dont survive you wont forget about it in a hurry. If your gonna do it, just go for it. But.. If you really want to avoid a situation you’ll find a way no matter how desperate. Wish you luck
June 18th, 2010 at 1:22 pm
Thank you!
June 20th, 2010 at 10:05 pm
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June 28th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
Hey guys I just wanted to tell you that im 14 and lookin for this cure to blushing but it went away for awhile because of a palet expander i had in the roof of my mouth that made me have alisp and sice i started thinkin about trying to talk normal i wasnt so much worried about blushing as prononcin my words and i hadnt been blushin until recently when i just got it out of my mouth and ive noticed the blushing problem is coming back! But i know the only reason i have it is because right before i feel an akward situation coming on i try not to blush even though i know no one will hate me if i blush and will still talk to me and probably has forgot all about it. even though i probably can remeber evrey time iive blushed! Whenever i meet new people not knowing im goin to i dont blush. If i think about situations or conversations before they happen is when i blush! But ive notice that these situations that i go over and over again in my head never actually happen!
July 1st, 2010 at 12:26 am
I know it’s cheating but I have found a drug called Inderol (beta blocker) that prevents blushing and heart palpitations. I use it in stressful situations like team meetings at work where I have to talk. At the moment I am pregnant so can’t take it – I have been using a technique I used in cognitive behavioural therapy instead. The therapist told me to just focus on the message (rather than the blushing). I have still been blushing but have managed to stop my voice shaking and continue with what I was saying which is an improvement on some of the shaking/ trembling voice situations I have been in before. However I do recommend trying Inderol.
July 5th, 2010 at 6:48 am
you know sometimes i’ll have a good couple of days and somehow i’ll manage to forget how bad this condition is and i will let myself dream of a life that i could of had, should of had! Then it happens again and brings you back to reality. A total relapse. Doomed to a life of frustration. Deep i know, but true.
July 6th, 2010 at 7:40 am
Hi, today i was at work and my trainer was talking about how urine tests for chlamydia should be collected and I thought “if i go red right now she is going to think i have chlamydia for sure, don’t blush just because she is talking about chlamydia” and so i went so red i think i may have even gone white. I just refused eye contact with her and tried to take deep breaths to make it go away asap without being to obvious.
I often go my redest when i think people may think i am the culprit or especially if i think people accuse me of anything and I think they may think im lying and then go red and they probably do.. “your blushing, you must be lying” etc.. …awesome..
I to dread going to the supermarket or being in any kind of classroom, meeting, closed room type of environment and when i enter this environment the first thing I think is where to put myself where the least amount of ppl will notice my blushing episodes, when i go red i get so embarrassed i put my head down so no one can see and they laugh and say ‘oh my god even your scalp is bright red’ and i just try and laugh it off, but its really not doing wonders for my self esteem. I think its all due to my biggest annoyance with myself, which is that I care so much about what other people think of me it is often crippling as you all can relate to. How stupid is that you hate going to the supermarket because you may bump into someone you know and as soon as you see them you’ll go bright red. and yes I blush when i am talking to attractive men, i blush whenever any attention is put on me. I hate it. I remember I was at a hotel with my new boyfriend ages ago and we were having breakfast downstairs at the buffet and he had already got his plate and sat down to eat and i was walking down the stairs towards him with my food and he was looking at me, and i went bright red thinking he must thinking of all the possible things he could be thinking about me and my plate… ridiculous and so embarrassing. Absolutely could not believe I am not the only one that deals with this issue. I wish it would F*** off hahah.
July 9th, 2010 at 10:31 pm
Back in April I wrote a posting on this list that appears up above. Just shortly before that posting, I had started doing primal therapy on myself. Most primal therapists recommend strongly against trying it oneself, but in my case for different reasons there was no other way. The therapy has helped me a lot in a general way, and seems to be helping with blushing also. Late in May I blushed noticeably twice on one day, but those were truly embarrassing situations, and I recovered quickly.
(Blushing has never been a daily occurrence with me, but has been a significant problem. See my posting above.)
Since late May there have been a number of situations where previously I think I would have blushed. Instead I found that at those moments the muscles of my abdomen were moving agitatedly, but I did not blush. How do I interpret this?
I think that in early childhood I had some experience of feeling shame in a very painful way. I don’t yet know just what that experience was, but feel that there was some such experience. Previous to therapy, whenever some social situation would cause the memory of that pain to start entering my conscious mind (see also my April posting above), my body would want to cry, including a crying action of my abdomen. But some mind-body mechanism inside me would keep that pain out of my conscious mind (repress it) and would clamp down on my abdominal muscles, causing them to tighten into a wall (which I might not even notice). And as a side effect of that clampdown, I would blush. But now, after a few months of therapy, the clampdown is less. In a social situation that somehow reminds me of that painful experience, the memory now is not so unconscious, it comes closer to the surface. My abdomen starts to shake (fortunately, it’s usually hidden by my shirt!). I am on the verge of crying from the pain. All this happens automatically. No blushing occurs. If after the social situation is over I go and lie down and relax completely, my abdomen shakes more and more, I feel some of that long-ago pain, and I do in fact start to cry. But during the social situation, I didn’t blush.
As mentioned, I don’t know what exactly that painful memory in me is, but even without remembering exactly, I do feel some of that old pain. Maybe after some more months of therapy I’ll remember it clearly, though in my case that incident must taken place more than sixty years ago.
So in short, I think that by digging up that buried pain, or even just starting to dig it up, I’m getting free of my blushing.
I would guess that primal therapy could cure the blushing of many people, and do a lot more for them at the same time. But there are many things I don’t know about psychology. One should get advice, and if advised do the therapy, under qualified people.
July 14th, 2010 at 1:29 pm
Hi there,
I’ve just had a very bad blushing day at work and came across this site – I can’t tell you how much better I felt reading your posts, it’s so nice to know I’m not alone!
I’m 31 and have very pale skin that shows my blushing really badly… and red hair that really doesn’t do any favours when you’ve got a red face.
I’ve always blushed a lot but I’ve got a new job at the moment and am suffering really badly. It’s really getting to my confidence. I’m sure my co-workers either think I’m embarrassed by my work or that I fancy them. My blushing is especially bad with men which is awful – it’s particularly bad when I can see that they feel awkward talking to me because I’m blushing.
My best tip to minimise it is to take a really slow, long breath – it doesn’t always work but occasionally has helped me. I also bought some Rescue Remedy on my way home from work today that I’m going to try out too.
July 16th, 2010 at 10:04 am
hi, jess. Hope your remedy helps. There is a number of things you can try out there but just knowing your not alone helps alot and accepting it too
July 21st, 2010 at 10:38 am
I go red when i see old friends from school, or old work collegues, if someone authoritive talks to me, if im in a big group and i have to speak in front of them all, if someone asks me a question randomly, if i get i.d’d etc etc. just simple everyday things. sometimes its not bad, i can go out, bump into someone i know and im fine, other times i go scarlett red! then its as if a part of my brain just shuts down and i dont want to speak, i just wana run n hide. im going to the doctors. iv tryd remedies, iv tryd accepting it, talking about it but at the end of the day it still happens unexpectadly and its affecting my social life, i dont feel totally comfortable unless iv had a few drinks, so unless i plan on becoming a full time alcoholic anytime soon, iv got to get help.
July 23rd, 2010 at 9:58 pm
I am 33 years old and have had this problem all my life. One thing I stumbled upon about 6 years ago has really helprd mr ALOT! I take presciption Tramadol which is really a muscle relaxer which helps me with my blushing. It gives me a feeling of being more acertive. I also take it in combination with Zoloft and have a presciption for clonapin which is foe anxiety. The most important of the 3 pills to me is tha tramadol which seems to help the most. I feel so bad for all of you who suffer from this problem which seems like a “curse”. I have not completely gotten over this problem but I have contained it to a degree that I can live a happy life. Don’t ever give up on yourselves. You are just as important as anybody else. Leran to love who you are and where you came from. Practice makes perferct, so be careful what you practice! Hope this may help you.
August 6th, 2010 at 12:12 am
Go to http://www.primal-page.com/alpha-au.htm and search for the article “Skin Deep: A Mind/Body Program for Healthy Skin by Ted A. Grossbart, Ph.D. – Book Review by John A. Speyrer.”
At the bottom of that book review, Speyrer discusses his own experience with blushing. He blushed severely as a child but was lucky enough to grow out of it. Later in life, however, in psychotherapy, he felt that he came to an understanding of the reasons for his original blushing. This is the really interesting part of this article.
August 18th, 2010 at 6:51 am
i feel my blushing problem more then ever now. Its not that i’ve never had it this bad, its just that im at an all time low with it. Its really getting me down. I’ve always looked to the future hoping life would get easier, but it has not. Instead life is harder. Everyday at work is a real struggle for me and… I dont know. I just hate it.
August 20th, 2010 at 11:47 am
Aaron, I think the reason this problem is so frustrating is that we all have a sense inside us that “This is not the real me.” And I think that sense is perfectly correct. We all have a part of us that is free and perfectly okay, otherwise how would we know that the other part of us is not okay?
What we have to do is develop our ability to stay in touch with the part of us that is okay. This is done through meditation. Then we are “centered.” We have a calm, cool place in which we live, or which we can get back to quickly if we ever slip. Meditation may or may not itself cure blushing quickly, but it does work gradually. Moreover, we are happy in the meantime. That calm, cool place is itself happy, and in that place, that okay part of us, we never forget that there is light at the end of tunnel, and we remember that fact as we go on watching the part of us that still stumbles sometimes. We will see the stumbling and getting up again and patiently trying new techniques as a process, just a process, that is sure to lead to freedom in the end.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:03 pm
oh my god comment 44 is me all over.. i always try and see where people cant see my face in a room or i immerse myself in some sort of activity to keep my mind of blushing. Recently a friend of mine was saying that his phone went missing (and i had nothing to do with it) and i blushed just because i told myself not to, i think he noticed and i felt sick that a friend would think of me in this way. i always cover my face if possible when watching tv with people just in case something saucy comes on because it makes me blush. Talking to women is awkward, going to shops can be a nightmare,it seems that on a regular basis people are getting the wrong impression of me and its well horrible.Job interviews are pointless even if its going well i will blush for no reason and the more i think BLUSH the more i will and i feel like a idiot. I think people think its not a problem but i really think that it is, i sometimes feel like i have to change what im doing to accommadate the inevitable blush. Always trying to avoid eye contact is just unbearable and when im in mid blush my mind always goes have they noticed, do i look crazy, i think mid blush is really the most awkward feeling ever. People think that blushing is just associated with being embarrassed for me its so much more, why blush when seeing someone you barely know in the street it just does not make sense. Some days are fine even though i think i blush everyday, some days are just ridiculous.I’ve never worried what people think about me i really havent, i get totally trashed at weekends and it seems to disappear but thats no awnswer. I really think its nice to see that other people suffer from this,well its not but you know what i mean. Is there any point in telling people i have this even though they’ve definetely noticed because its such a common occurrance. The worst thing that makes me blush is when someone turns to me unexpectedly and starts talking to me,anyway i’ll shut up now, thanks.
August 22nd, 2010 at 6:07 pm
I have the blushing problem, it is so embarrassing! EVERY first day of school someone asks me “Why are you so red?” or “Someone must be talking about you because your face and ears are so red!” I always have to lie and say I got a sunburn. It never fails; every first week of school, every presentaion, every outing, everytime I meet someone new, I get horriblely red! There was this one time someone I really liked noticed my cologne and leaned over to me to smell it and my face turned bright red! So red I started to sweat and made matters worse when someone in my next period called me out on it. I’m so sick and tired of getting red and everyone noticing me. Sometimes I think Im known for getting red, how embarrassing?! I dont want to live in constant fear of getting red! Another problem is when I feel like my blushing has gone away and I think I’m alright until someone asks me why I’m so red then I start to feel the heat again and panic. Please someone tell me they are sick and tired of this! I really need a friend to talk to about this.
August 23rd, 2010 at 6:59 am
in response to your comment free, i think your right. Im always thinking of what i could of achieved if it wasn’t for this condition. But its not our fault its here. We’ve got to keep on struggling on, finding new ways to help us along. As for mike and rob. Ill always try and respond to your comments. I kinda use this site as my chat room. Its my outlet. I speak so freely about this condition here. Dont try to tell other ppl who dont suffer. Trust me, it doesn’t go down well. There a world away.
September 1st, 2010 at 4:14 am
Am penning this having just had a blushing episode! I really feel for everyone who experiences this. As a child and teenager I recall blushing, and remember being called ‘cherry’ by a group of boys when I was out with friends once. I had got a lot better, but in recent years I seem to be suffering again. It can happen when I feel someone is being confrontational with me, or if I have to give someone feedback (and I’m worrying about how they will take it). I think some of it is a confidence issue, but the minute I feel my cheeks becoming hot, all I can think is ‘I’m going red, everyone will notice and think why is she going red?’ and then I feel out of control! I’m a manager and it can happen in team meetings if I suddenly begin to doubt what I’m saying or if someone is being particularly challenging. Another classic scenario is if I have to talk with senior managers that I don’t know, or think won’t like me, or will think I’m not as smart as them. Then of course, there is the random blushing that can happen for no reason! it’s so frustrating as I feel it holds me back. Reading all the posts have been really helpful and I think I will try the CBT route to see if that can help. I also have a friend who is trained in NLP so think I may consult her for some help. Good luck to all – you’re not alone in this!
September 6th, 2010 at 5:17 am
Cant believe so many others suffer from this too. It really gets me down and makes me upset and cry when i think about it after. I think to myself i wish i was like my boyfriend as he never goes red. Ive spoke to my mum about it and she said she used to go red alot when she was younger but she grew out of it. Im 24 and its still happening, i dread family gatherings and when we play games or talk cos i just go red even when im not embarrassed. When i go red i just want to walk away or stop talking, i hate it when theirs loads of attention on me. Does this happen to others? Going red even in front of your family? I sometimes do in front of my boyfriend and i think to myself i dont even know why x
September 6th, 2010 at 2:13 pm
Hi every1 I have sufferd from blushing and social phobia for abt 3 yrs. It effected me so badly I stoped goin out wiv friends and I lost all of my confidence and became realy depressed:( but thank god I have over come this and u all can 2 try. You all need 2 try the linden method it’s brilliant so many people are raving about it. It’s brilliant it really helped me and I have got all my confidence back. It’s very pricy but it’s worth a shot trust me.good luck people
September 10th, 2010 at 4:49 am
Hey everyone I’ve had a severe problem with blushing for many years but in the past year I found a way to fight it. I started cognitive behavioural therapy and I definitely worked well. It’s not going to stop straight away as u still get times I blush. But when you do blush you should think to yourself about the situation and what triggered it. Then think honestly about what these people think about you maybe they think what your thinking they think but you don’t know they could be thinking about what they’re saying to you or maybe they could be worried that they’ve made you embarrassed. I used to think everyone thought I was stupid but that’s just something you don’t know. You just have to get over that fear of people judging you as it isn’t there right to judge if anyone want to talk I’d be happy to.
September 17th, 2010 at 8:15 am
I’m a 40 year old female and I’ve had this problem all my life. When I was younger, I assumed it would get better with age as I got more confident and grew up. Ha! It’s getting worse with age! I tried hypnotherapy in my twenties, which didn’t work so $600 down the drain and now as well as blushing indiscriminately in social situations and when explaining something to someone, I now blush at any mention of sex!
I don’t know why, I never used to. I remember when I was a teenager watching the start of the film Shirley Valentine with my Dad, where the actress is talking about the clitoris and it didn’t bother me. In fact I inwardly chortled to myself that my Dad was having to sit through it! But now, ads for sanitary towels on TV or any vague allusion to sex, even people talking about babies or their pregnancy and I go bright red.
It’s making my life a real misery, especially as some people seem to think it’s OK to tease me about it. (I wonder how they would feel if I teased them about some physical aspect of theirs, say being fat for example? Would they think that was acceptable?)
I think I must need intensive psychiatry! Anyway, I’m going to try searching for ways of improving confidence and lessening self consciousness to see if that helps. Wish me luck and good luck to you all too!
September 17th, 2010 at 5:52 pm
Hi everyone, it really does feel better to hear that others know exactly what you’re going through. And Cheryl, I totally get where you’re coming from! I don’t get why people enjoy teasing, even my boyfriend does it, and it makes it even worse! I’ve had a blushing problem since high-school now, it’s gotten a lot better since doing CBT for public-speaking issues. I think a lot of the underlying issue behind blushing is anxiety of something – a fear of being judged negatively, or a fear of something else. I even blush when I think someone is thinking something about me – even though, how can we ever actually predict what people are thinking about us! Anyway, I’m thinking of joining a toastmasters organisation to help with public-speaking and gaining confidence, I truly believe with time and effort we can all get better and I believe in all of you, don’t give up, you’re not alone!!!
September 21st, 2010 at 6:18 pm
I am yet another sufferer and i have all of the symptoms described by so many others on here.. especially you Rob. i am 27 and have found some ingenius ways to try to cover my blushing over the years (getting people to talk solely about themselves, asking questions to deflect).. at one point i was a kind of hermit as a result, but now i am determined to feel the fear and do it anyway. I have recently got through my masters in social work (somehow?! i dont know how i did all those role-plays.. but my attendance was crap i suppose).. haha a social worker with social anxiety! But i am fed up of it now, i am sick of it ruining my life. It has runied so many potential friendships because i wont go out meet people, i dont even like talking on the phone. If there is a pause in any conversation i think its my fault and that people see me as boring. It is definitely a confidence issue but i just dont know how to start to get over all this. does anyone have any things that have worked, apart from taking medication? i dont like the thought of slowing down my heart-rate etc. it must be damaging. It is such a barrier to being my true self, i can only be comfortable around about 3 people in my life.. the rest i have to have a drink before i see them. when i drink no one would ever know i have this condition, and i can say absolutely anything i like, have debates and interesting conversations, make people laugh etc. but then the next day my social anxiety is even worse cos i had a drink, so i cant function in everyday life.. ah im so stuck. what can we do? I feel so beaten by this condition at the minute
September 27th, 2010 at 5:07 am
i get called wierd alot. Like people will say i come out with random things. Someone told me the other day i had a mysterious personality. Has anybody else had that?
September 27th, 2010 at 9:18 am
I struggle with the same thing. Everyday is a battle with this annoying disorder. I have tried eredicane, medication, creams, and everything you can name in the past. The only thing that has helped me a little is hypnosis training to sub conciously re program the way my body reacts to a social situation. It may be worth looking into… Im not saying its a fix but it has helped me some.
September 27th, 2010 at 11:47 am
Honestly people try the linden method its brilliant my social anxiety has gone and so has the blushing.trust me peps it’s a fantastic method 2 use
December 3rd, 2010 at 4:46 am
i have been a volunteer for 2 years on social works and this is a very exciting job for me ~,’
February 3rd, 2011 at 6:56 pm
I just got home from a horrible day at work because it was filled with many episodes of blushing. I came home, laid in my bed and just sobbed. I feel angry at myself, mortified, isolated, frustrated, defeated, total humiliation, my lowest point…. I hate to talk about it with my family, friends, or husband because no one understands. It sounds so stupid.
After my cry session I decided to google “blushing problems.” I never thought that so many people go through this same problem on a daily basis! Blushing affects all aspects of my life. The hardest part is that I am not “embarrassed” in those certain situations, it is just that I start obsessing and fearing a red face and then it makes it worse! Ta-Da! Tomato face and everyone is staring at me and wondering why I look like such a freak.
I definitely blush around certain people more. If I have blushed around them before or in a certain situation, I will most definitely blush again and then my anxiety shoots through the roof. I blush when someone (even my good friends or family) put me on the spot or when I know people are looking at me. I even blush when certain people walk in the room unexpectedly. If someone mentions it, on my goodness, it gets way worse! I just want to run away when I feel my face getting hot but that isn’t usually possible. The pain and negative self talk after these episodes in getting worse. I hate it.
I started blushing in middle school and sometimes I go through periods where it is worse. This condition is on my mind all the time and controlling me! I always get so mad at myself when I run into someone at the store unexpectedly and blush. WTF! I just don’t understand it. It is preventing me from doing many things like presentations or attending social gatherings. I have so many great ideas and things that I would like to share at staff meetings but I don’t because I don’t want to turn red. I am a teacher and I even blush sometimes around my little 12 year old students. When I read them a story and know they are all looking at me… Seriously!? 12 year olds are making me blush! Why is this happening? It makes me feel very stupid and incompetent. Ugh. I am rambling on and on but it feels good to vent. I have never ever written about this or talked much about my blushing. It is just too painful but i know I need help.
February 20th, 2011 at 2:36 am
Hello everyone, I want to type up my situations with this problem as well. Im 17, & I know that we all have this problem in common, and i have been doing this probably since i was a really small child. I am very pale, despite the fact that I am full hispanic. I lived in Mexico up until i was four, and adults always used to call me “huero” meaning, “whitey” and it never really bothered me, but after a while it made me feel different because i was probably the palest kid in the small pueblo. I remember looking at my brother and thinking “why does he have all the good genes?!” I dont remember if i had experienced blushing yet, but i remember the time when i first started noticing it, and when it first became a problem which was the first day of middle school, i will get to that. I guess i always felt special and different from everyone else. In elementary school, i was also one of the palest kids, and i grew so FAST! by the time i was in the third grade, i was already 5′3, and i started getting chunky. When i was in first grade, all the kids (even my best friend) would all gang up on me, push me around, throw rocks at me, and one time, my best friend even spit on me, and they justified it by saying that i was bigger than all of them. That pretty much tore me up inside. I would cry in class in front of everyone. Picture it, The biggest boy sitting in the middle of class crying. When i was in fifth grade, i still wore my old pants, because my family wasn’t really a high-end family when i came to money. I was the tallest kid in the whole school, so it seemed like everyone had seen me at one moment or another. Until, I started handing out with a new kid, who was taller then me, and became a good friend named Gustavo. Gustavo was really influenced in the street gang life, even in 5th grade. And i remember him making fun of my tight pants, because he wore really baggy pants, and it made me feel fat. Then i went on to middle school,
MIDDLE SCHOOL
When gustavo called me fat was when i started really becoming uncomfortable with myself. I started middle school, and the very first day, was the day that i noticed it, and the day that it became a problem. I lived Really far from the school, and i had to walk because my parents both worked early. When i finally got to school, i had sweat all over my body, dripping down my face. I was rockin’ a “high-fade” haircut, some “hairy potter” glasses, my old pants, and a white polo shirt, that revealed my white wife-beater under it, which made it look like a bra. I got to school right as the bell rang and took the second last empty seat sweating like a horse(no deodorant as i didn’t know of its wonders yet).
After getting comfortable in my seat for 30 seconds, a pretty female taps me on my shoulder and says “hey can i trade you seats? youre sitting next to my friend and i wanna sit next to her.” I thought to myslef “SH*T, if i get up, i will leave a huge sweat stain on my seat, and i dont want that!” but i had no choice, the last time i said had denied a female a seat, everyone looked at me like i was a huge D*ck. So i nodded my head, and stood up. She looked down and stood next to my seat until the sweat dried up. That was the WOOOORSSSTT moment in my life at that point. and up until second semester of freshman year, when i lost weight and started looking FRESH TO DEATH, i would blush, 20 times a day. for random reasons. I would be sitting in church, and be bright red, sweating like a horse, between MANY MANY people.
Life was GREAT, until i hit sophmore year, after wrestling season, i gained alot of weight, and cut all my hair off, and then started experiencing this again. It SUCKS. but honestly, the thing that helps me the most, is saying… “you know what? i just dont GIVE A F*CK what anyone thinks of me. I am a human beign, and I’m a great person.” if you stop caring what people think, it will stop. because it is what helps me. think about it, If you stop caring about the way your ugly toenail looked, do you think you’ll get embarrassed when other people say that it looks ugly? Now a days, i look at myself when im red, and think “yeah, im red, but i’m one damn sexy red face DOOD ;]” and it stops me from beign red, because i DONT CARE if my red… It doesn’t matter at all, i dont CARE!
That’s the only thing that has worked for me. Wish you the best!
February 20th, 2011 at 9:43 am
when i’m at home and someone unexpectedly turns up I blush. If I hear a knock at the door or see a car turn up the driveway, i jump up and walk to the other end of the house go into a room and take deep breaths and then look in the mirror to make sure the blushing is gone and then i go and answer the door and then i get paranoid thinking what they think i’ve been doing.. and why did i take so long to answer the door and i think they’ll think i’ve been doing something dodgy. My boyfriends always like, shall we have blah blah and blah blah over for tea and i’m like ohh i’m pretty tired maybe another night, or on the weekends sometimes sometimes when we have to go to his friends places for bbq’s and stuff and I often make up excuses not to go because i just cant handle sitting there if i’m not getting really drunk. So basically if i really dont feel like drinking i cant go and i often don’t feel like drinking because the next day i feel really depressed a lot of the time and its just not worth it.. or is it.. i dont know its hard.. My boyfriend started saying the other day, how come you never want to come to my friends things with me and dont you like my friends etc, and i said no i do like your friends, sometimes i just feel really awkward and horrible in social situations and it affects my confidence really badly. I often daydream about living the life of a recluse just having nothing to do with society whatsoever.. just never leaving my house but i dont want to do that at all.. I totally agree with you Brian.. if you stop caring what people think you will stop blushing, but when will i stop caring what people think, when i think that im awesome thats when.. i cant wait to feel free from this burden and just not give a f#ck what anyone thinks of me. why should we, after all everyone is busy thinking about themselves anyway, with the exception of those people that thrive on others discomfort and go out of their way to tease you and watch your reaction.. huhhh (sigh) well i hope you all have a good 2011 ive been saying every year for a couple years now that this year will be different, but yea, those brief moments of freedom are when i dont care what people think of me and i can walk down the street not being consumed by what passers by are thinking of the way i look, dress walk, my facial expressions… everything! i love those moments. x
March 10th, 2011 at 6:16 pm
I really have a huge blushing problem..it’s getting worse day by day and I dont know what to do:(
April 8th, 2011 at 2:44 pm
Praise the losrd there are other blushers out there! I have sufferred from chronic blushing for 15 years and nothing seems to help. Ive tried CBT which did not help, ive even enquired about surgery and it is something i have been considering for a while. Anybody tried any other techniques? Honestly this makes work a nightmare i avoid certain people because i know i will end up blushing! Really getting me down
April 15th, 2011 at 12:36 am
Magnesium really does work for me.. It just calms me down and i dont even think about blushing. I use Natural Calm, its pretty cheap too you can get a month supply for 20$
May 22nd, 2011 at 7:27 am
Omg I can’t believe I have come across this site, I have became a blusher for about just over a year….I guess I did used to get embarrassed easily but this is different, I just blush for no reason. Michelle post number 6, I am very similar to you I always blush infront of my male managers but I just don’t know why, its really starting to get to me now as people just look at you and you can tell that they are becoming uncomfortable! It wasn’t so bad at first but it seems to be getting worse
…its just really comforting to know there are other people out there who have the same problem
June 10th, 2011 at 6:23 pm
like you all say its a releif to find out your not the only one.. i remember how it all started. it was during one of the first seminars at uni.. i was mindlessly slumped on the desk not paying attention to anything in the class when the teacher picked on me and asked me what i thought. obviously i had no clue and i blushed at all the staring faces. then this one girl started laughing hysterically at my shame… even the teacher told her to be quiet. ever since then i’ve never been the same. sometimes it is unbearable, like today. othertimes i can get a long with my life. i feel it is stopping me from being the person i want to be although i understand it is only myself, my mind. i am reading books on mediation and trying to meditate every night. i just get frustrated that it isn’t instant. i do know that there lies the key to freedom, being free of your mind, free of thinking of past and future. you can only be in the now. i hope that helps guys. we will lead a free life. x
August 1st, 2011 at 7:04 am
OMG! I am sooo relieved its not just me! I thought I was nuts! I just dont understand it and im sure neither do the people facing me when im standing there like a glowing red freak! Im sure it makes them feel bad too, they must be thinking what did I say. Ive always been a little shy and would go red occasionally when I was embarrassed but now im nearly 30 with a really good job, great husband and adorable children going red is a daily thing. But strangley I can stand up and talk to a room full people even, older, more senior men, all staring at me and as long as I dont know anyone of them im fine. But colleagues, close friends and family im gone. I turn into this shy, quiet, self concious, nervous wreak. I dont go out anymore with groups of friends. Deep down I know when and why it started but now I cant control it. I am (without wanting to sound vain) a quite attractive person and was always very popular with females aswell as males, athough my whole life being teased for being “blonde”. Then two years ago I landed this great job. I have more responsiblilty than I ever thought I would have, working with a large team of very well educated accedemic people and when I started I thought it was luck fearing with every month that went by that they would see through me. But ive been here two years, and acheieved so much so realise I can do this and it wasnt luck. But why do I keep blushing! Its getting worse all the time and im scared that its eventually going to take hold and ruin everything I have achieved so far.
September 14th, 2011 at 7:06 pm
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September 25th, 2011 at 8:07 am
Hi,
Great site and wonderful comments. I would also like to recommend a guide called The blushers manual. It helped me alot how to understand the causes and also helped me find cures that works for me. By the way don’t even consider surgery, A friend of mine did that. It worked for 6 months then she got lots of sweating. She regrets doing the surgery.
October 11th, 2011 at 12:24 pm
fuck this problem. im so sick of it, but its good to know there are more people out there who have the same problem. i wish there was some easy way to cure this for EVERYONE!
October 19th, 2011 at 11:45 am
Hi all,
I have had this blushing problem since the age of 13 I am now 26 years old. I think its one of the worst problems ever. I am temping at the job and today a guy just greeted me and I greeted back, I could feel my heart racing so I tried to talk to some1 else but he came up 2 me to ask me how I am doing..I went so so red I felt like crying, my friend saw me then started laughing and asked me why I was so red and I went more red. I am so scared 2 go 2 work 2moro cos I already know that I will blush whenever he speaks 2 me or walk past me but only because my friend will bring up the bushing part. I feel so embarresed about this it feel like its taking over my life. Help meee
November 7th, 2011 at 3:12 pm
Hi everyone. I’ve had this problem as long as I can remember but I can remember the first time. I was doing a presentation in primary school and I was so excited about it. Then I started and I didn’t even realize but everyone started laughing because I was bright red!
Anyway, 12 years on I guess I have improved somewhat. It seems to be variable. It bothers me for maybe 10-15 minutes whenever I blush but not too much after that (although sometimes it gets me down, no doubt).
I’m currently in medical school and so I guess the moral of this story is don’t let it bother you because nobody thinks any less of us, or cares. Who ever heard of a doctor with a blushing problem, by the way?! I’m trying hard to accept all my faults and just enjoy my life.
November 10th, 2011 at 12:21 am
Hi all my fellow blushers!
Janelle,
I know exactly how you feel… sometimes even if I don’t really like a guy I’ll just have a thought pop into my head for a second, not a dirty one or anything inappropriate, but I still turn… stop sign red… and then after that I’m so afraid of turning red around that person that I turn red just thinking about seeing them.
I had this problem in jr high, then miraculously it went away in high school then came back again in college. Now I’m a CPA and Accounting Manager and I feel like it’s interfering with my career progression. I work hard and I’m very competent, really awesome at my job, yet I still turn red at the drop of a pin! Except for around my boyfriend who bless him is the only person I feel comfortable being myself around.
November 10th, 2011 at 12:40 am
I also wanted to ask everyone on here… do you always know when you’re blushing??? I think most of the time when I’m blushing I’m completely aware of it, but sometimes someone will ask me why I’m so red, and it’s depressing because I had no idea I was red at all…
November 10th, 2011 at 7:14 pm
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November 26th, 2011 at 3:11 am
Hello to all. I thought I would share my problem of blushing. I am a 51 year-old male with a very successful career both business-wise and also educationally. I have a nice home, a nice family and I guess if you met me, you may think I was the last person you would think has a blushing problem.
I probably can’t give all the details on this forum (too complex) but I’m satisfied that my blushing results directly from a deep-rooted feeling of a lack of self-worth that I had when I was a young child and something that I’ve had to battle against all my life (and still do to some extent). Over the years, as my success has grown and my self-confidence has improved, my blushing has become less – but I’m afraid to say to you younger ones – it still happens.
My advice would be to give yourself a break. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m my own worst enemy and the reasons that make me blush are all self-inflicted. I’ve learned to be a better friend to “me” and thsi has helped my blushing considerably.
Good luck to you all and God Bless You – you really are a very special person.
December 7th, 2011 at 4:09 am
I have the same problem. Every time when I am the focus point I can feel the redness, anyone says my name or anyone tries talking to me, I can feel my face burn and my heart race and then I get even more embarrassed because I know I look stupid going red just because someone spoke to me. And other times if some one come behind me which I didn’t see I go red for no apparent reason. Wherever I go I make sure to wear a hat so that nobody can see it immediately. I just want some sort of technique that can maybe calm me down quicker and so my face doesn’t stay so red. I hide away and avoid certain situations because i don’t want it to happen and i even go red thinking about going red if something happened. It really gets in the way of my potential or things and I just want some form of help please. This article didn’t really help me, please help? This problem really takes over my life.